Sometimes doing the right thing means being willing to ruin the party.

For generations

The responsibility was put on women.

• Be careful.
• Don’t walk alone.
• Watch your drink.
• Don’t dress a certain way.
• Text when you get home.
• Don’t put yourself in a bad situation.

Those conversations may still have value. They aren’t enough.

So

We talk to men about how men are expected to act.

And we teach good men that doing nothing when another man crosses the line isn’t enough.

That’s what Ruin the Party means. It means being the guy who:

• speaks up when everyone else stays quiet.
• tells his friend: “No. This ends right now.”
• notices that someone is too intoxicated to consent.
• doesn’t laugh at the joke.
• steps between someone vulnerable and someone taking advantage of them.
• gets a woman safely out of a situation.
• is willing to be called dramatic, a buzzkill, a snitch, or worse, because protecting another human being matters more than fitting in.